It a "Lost Cause"?
Truth - November 1965)
SCENE was a beatiful semi-tropical garden -
a veritable paradise. The young man in the
picture seemed to have everything going for
him. He had perfect health, radiant good
looks, a keen, alert mind. He even had ideal
employment and abundant wealth in natural
as he walked in these gorgeous surroundings,
ate the delectable, natural fruits, observed
and petted the friendly animals, an aching,
gnawing feeling began to grow inside of him.
He was dissatisfied.
was just plain lonesome. There was no one of
his kind to talk to. No one with whom he
could share this beauty as well as his
plans, hope and dreams. No one he could
Woman Was Created
the Lord God said, It is not good that the
man should be alone; I will make him an help
meet for him" (Gen. 2:18). Then, God
took a rib out of Adamís own body and used
it as the basic substance from which He
created woman. Then He brought her to the
man. "And Adam said, This is now bone
of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she
shall be called Woman, because she was taken
out of Man" (verse 23). Then God
states: "Therefore shall a man leave
his father and his mother and shall cleave
unto his wife: and they shall be one
flesh" (verse 24).
mythology, you say?
say that if every young girl could be taught
this inspired account of her reason for
being, the world would be a much happier
place for both male and female! If every
young boy could be given proper
understanding of this event, the husbands
and fathers of tomorrow would respect and
appreciate their wives for more than most
men do today.
what do we find today?
total lack of understanding of womanís
true PURPOSES in life, of what true
womanhood is and how to achieve it. This
lack is a major CAUSE of the frustrations
and unhappiness of multiple millions of
women. The effect on our entire modern
civilization has been profound.
That Demand an Answer
todayís mixe-up world, millions of women
are wondering - and literally hundreds have
written us - questions like the following:
"Just what feminine characteristics
should a woman have?" "Just where
do women fit, anyway?" "What value
does the Creator place on women?"
"JUST WHAT ARE WOMEN FOR?"
tendancy of so many modern women is to be
aggressive, domineering, loudmouthed and
"hard" in their approach to life -
distressing phenomena of our age.
Distressing, first of all, to these very
obvious sign of this is that ulcers -
formerly thought of as an essentially male
illness - are now afflicting almost as many
women as men, especially women in the
business and executive fields. And the more
a woman starys into the male areas of life,
the more high blood pressure, heart disease
and other similar maladies are her lot.
the deepst problem is not physical, but
themselves acknowledge their frustration and
EMPTINESS. When they have forsaken the place
in life God designed for them and begin to
compete with males, with other women and
even with themselves, they have lost their
reason for being! Noting this, one leading
psychiatrist asked many older career women:
"What was the most gratifying moment in
instinctively, they would reply: "When
I held my first baby in my arms." Or:
"When my husband first proposed to
me." They never said: "The day I
got my first job." Never: "The
first time I swung a big business
by the thousands, American women have been
literally BRAINWASHED into believing it is
beneath their intellectual station to be a
housewife and mother! False ideas and
theories about "freedom" and
"equality" are being incessantly
pounded into their minds. A young secretary
today often considers it more important to
scribble on a shorthand pad than to stay at
home, help and inspire her husband, and
train her children to grow up to be the
leaders of tomorrow!
if we are willing, the ANSWER to the whole
problem is found in the simple, yet
beautiful, account of womanís creation.
Review and analyze this inspired account. It
is found in Genesis 2:18 in your Bible. Let
us learn what it does NOT say, as well as
what it does say.
said: "It is not good that the man
should be alone." Obviously, then, man
was NOT the great, all-conquering hero,
self-sufficient and in need of no help!
Rather, man NEEDED help - and needed it
badly. Man was NOT complete unto himself.
Rather, each man is INcomplete and in need
of the help, inspiration, warmth and balance
imparted by the right woman as his wife!
a way that no animal creature could, woman
was created to SHARE with man his life, his
plans, hopes and dreams. She was created
specifically to help the man.
this help, which only the woman can give,
man would NEVER achieve the full, abundant,
peaceful and balanced life which God
intended. Without giving this help, woman
becomes edgy, resentful, frustrated, headed
up a "blind alley" - for she is
failing to fulfill the very PURPOSE for
which she was created!
Women Should Bear In Mind
be truly happy, a real woman should bear in
mind the purpose of which she was created -
and set herself definite GOALS to fulfill in
the accomplishment of that purpose.
of all, she should remember that she was
called to help and supplement her husband.
She should learn to be responsive to him and
to his direction of the home, entertainment
and way of life.
should realize that her husbandís success
is her success also - and fully SHARE and
delight in the triumphs and achievements of
her husband, knowing that htey are partly
her own. Also, she should equally share in
his sorrow and disappointments - trying
always to give the right kind of balanced
and positive sympathy and encouragement so
that he will rebound to other successes in
second area in which a woman should
cultivate success and service is that of
bearing and TRAINING her children.
Certainly, young mothers exert a powerful
influence on the leaders of tomorrow. And
women should realize the overwhelming
IMPORTANCE of zealously and joyously
dedicating themselves to this as their
highest physical calling. FAR MORE IMPORTANT
it is than that of an office worker or
secretary on any level.
His Word, God instructs older women:
"That they may teach the young women to
be sober, to love their husbands, to love
their children, to be discreet, chaste,
KEEPERS AT HOME, good, obedient to their own
husbands, that the word of God be not
blasphemed" (Titus 2:4-5).
the Great God who CREATED woman tells her to
be a KEEPER AT HOME - not a gad-about,
"do-gooder" or business-woman.
Christian woman who objectively and
enthusiastically give themselves to their
calling are adding immeasurably to their own
happiness and well-being, first of all, and
to that of their family - now and perhaps
for generations to come. But it goes deeper
than that. They are adding to the entire
society in which they live.
A Woman Can Best Serve the Entire World
leads us to the third area of womanís
rightful accomplishment. That of serving-
through her husband and family - the society
and the world as a whole. Too many want to
be career women on their own. Women can
REALLY accomplish far more in the end to
help this entire world by being the kind of
wives and mothers that God Almighty
this example. In his book "My Darling
Clementine, the Story of Lady
Churchill," author Jack Fishman vividly
portrays the fact that Sir Winston
Churchillís wife aided and supported him
in a manner that added immeasurably to his
tremendous accomplishments. Sir Winston - to
"Man of the Century" - would NEVER
have been the kind of man he was, or had the
stability he had, the patience and fortitude
he displayed, and the ability to rebound
even from shattering defeat or
discouragement - if it had not been for the
unusual help, inspiration and support of his
it another way, perhaps our entire Western
civilization might not even BE HERE if it
had not been for the steadfastness, wisdom
and courage of this man - inspired and
greatly magnified by this highly intelligent
and cultured woman. She was willing to
dedicate herself to being his wife and
helper one hundred percent of the time!
should also be familiar with the example of
patient teaching, religious instruction,
guidance, encouragement and inspiration
which Abraham Lincolnís mother gave to
him. At the height of his accomplishments,
this most revered of all American Presidents
stated: "All that I am or ever hope to
be I owe to my angel mother."
frankly, if Mr. Lincolnís mother had been
working at the corner drugstore instead of
inspiring and molding the life of this
future President, would there have been an
Abraham Lincoln to guide America through its
greatest internal catastrophe - the Civil
for the woman who reads and understands the
Bible, another goal presents itself. That is
the goal of preparing to help RULE and
reconstruct this entire society in the World
Tomorrow (Rev. 2:26; 5:10). Some Christian
women wonder how they are being prepare for
this. If they, themselves, are not leading
and directing businesses, families and
public activities today, how are they
learning and preparing for tomorrowís
ANSWER is that a woman, with the
physiological and psychological nature given
her by God has magnificent opportunities -
too often untapped - for preparing toward
this goal. She needs to set herself to be a
really successful wife, mother and
contributor today. But, you say, she is not
getting direct experience in leadership!
put this another way! How many men that you
know are constantly "leading"? How
many men are in complete charge of every
situation wherever they may be? How many men
are responsible to no one else?
answer, of course, is that every man on
earth is responsible to others. The
overwhelming majority of all men have
supervisors and bosses over them during the
day. Then, on the way home, they are
certainly "under" the authority of
the youngest motorcycle policeman on that
particulr freeway! Even at home they are
"under" the authority of the
police, the mayor of the city, the governor
of the state, the president, premier or
other leader of the nation and the ministers
appointed by each of those in governing
their respective territories.
during the day while her husband is gone she
is "in charge." Over whom? Over
what? The organization and administration of
household duties, the children and their
training, and perhaps servants, and delivery
people who may assist her from time to time.
leader, her boss - who should be her husband
- is not around and watching over her work
nearly as much as his boss is probably
watching over his activities hour by hour!
It is just that they have different kinds of
work and different kinds of responsibility!
a woman learns to zealously and wisely think
out and plan, execute and follow through on
her responsiblities, she will be JUST AS
WELL PREPARED for any future responsibility
in Godís Kingdom as will her husband!
both husbands and wives, it is important to
realize a basic principle of leadership.
This is a valid principle taught in many
military organizations and quite often
civilian ones. It is that you are not ready
to give orders until you have first learned
how to responsively take orders and to
accomplish the assigned job effectively.
the very nature and role in life which God
Himself has assigned women enables them to
learn some very important Christian
qualities most directly. They learn in a
direct, personal sense to be yielding and
responsive, to help and to serve. In a
constant and personal manner, a woman has
the blessed opportunity to LIVE to its
greatest extent Jesusí inspired statement:
"It is more blessed to GIVE than to
receive" (Acts 20:35).
happiness, the joy, the sense of a deep-down
satisfaction and accomplishment which comes
to a dedicated and successful wife and
mother bears eloquent testimony to the
eternal truth of the above inspired
statement of the Son of God.
Femininity is An ATTITUDE - An Entire WAY OF
many women think that femininity is
primarily looking pretty, dressing neatly or
talking softly and being retiring, these are
just outward symptoms of an inward state of
mind. These things are important in
themselves - yet they alone do not
constitute the whole of femininity by any
means. Sometimes, in fact, certain women
"put on" these outward
manifestations which belie their real
attitude and approach to life.
basic ATTITUDE a true feminine woman should
cultivate springs from her recognition and
agreement with the feminine goals outlined
attitude and approach, therefore, is that of
trying to help and add to the stature of her
husband. It is that of gladly bearing and
training her children, spending time and
effort with them in the realization that
they may be the leaders of tomorrow. It is
attempting to serve the larger society
through - not apart from - husband and
family. It is also, finally, preparing for
her ultimate spiritual goal in the Kingdom
of God by learning the lessons of love,
obedience and service here in this life and
expressing these to the full extent as a
wife and mother.
above attitude and approach is BASIC.
woman who seeks to be truly feminine should
inculcate this approach into every area of
her life. She should actually write down
these areas of feminine responsibility,
analyze how she is fulfilling them and write
down suggestions as to how she may fulfill
them more perfectly. Asking Godís help,
she should attempt to LIVE this way in her
relationship with her husband, family and
society as a whole. Attempting to help,
supplement and serve in these areas should
be the motivating factor in all of her life
and permeate her thinking and approach to
meditating on the above approach to life,
she should study, analyze and obey Godís
inspired instruction found in I Peter
in this passage, that wives are to be
subject to their own husbands - NOT
competing with them! If their husbands are
not Christians, God says that they may be
"won" APART FROM the
"Word" - or Bible teaching - by
the conduct (incorrectly translated
"conversation") of the wives. The
passage explains that if a wife shows deep
respect and reverence for her husband, he
may be won over to Christianity by his
admiration of her willigness to take the
place which GOD has assigned the woman in
his life. She wins him NOT by
"preaching at him," but by her
Christian humility in submitting to him as a
"adoring" is not to be the
over-usage of gold, pearls, fancy clothes or
outladish hairdo. Rather, it is to be the
outward way of life reflecting "a meek
and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of
God of great price."
verse 6 of this passage, the Christian woman
is instructed to consider her husband as her
"lord" or boss.
"career women" today might reply
with a sacastic sneer to this inspired
passage of Scripture - yet these same women
for hte most part have men for bosses! They
simply want some OTHER man - apart from
their husband - to boss them, and not the
very man for whom they professed enough love
and admiration to marry!
the attitude of deep respect for her
husband, a truly feminine woman will NOT be
arguing, bickering or NAGGING at her
will anticipate his wishes and his
directions. Because of its altered meaning
in modern terminology, she may not literally
call her husband "lord," but she
can and should respond to him: "Yes,
sir!" when he is addressing her in an
"official" capacity as her
husband! If she would do this for her boss,
then why not her own husband who begets the
children of her body, who should protect
her, provide for her, love her and be the
one of whom she can lean and trust the rest
of her natural life?
in verse 7, husbands are told to respect the
willingness of their wives to take the place
designed by God. Then, in verse 8, both man
and wife - and all Christians - are
instructed to be of "one mind" -
with compassion, love, courtesy and a
definite SELF-RESTRAINT in the use of the
tongue in arguing and bickering!
as this scripture says: "He that will
love life, and see good days, let him
REFRAIN his tongue from evil, and his lips
that they speak no guile" (verse 10).
Life is entirely TOO SHORT to spend it
arguing, bickering, and fighting with anyone
- especially the very man or woman whom you
should love the most!
we are on this subject, let me give you the
advice of one eminent physician - with whom
I heartily agree - who has said that the
words, "Iím sorry, dear," are
very medicinal in thier effect in peopleís
lives. A simple and sincere apology often
averts a great deal of trouble, bickering
and anguish. It takes courage to admit that
you - and sometimes you alone - are wrong in
a particular situation. But, in marriage
above all other insitutions, it is certainly
seeking to implement and magnify the above
feminine APPROACH to life, let us now
discuss five specific feminine
characteristics which every woman should
Responsiveness and Service
the most outstanding characteristic of a
truly feminine woman is that of being warm
and responsive. The first man, Adam, was
alone, he was lonesome. He had no one to
talk to. He was incomplete.
was created to share manís life and love,
to respond to him, and encourage him.
a woman will lovingly and consistently do
this, and right-minded man will lavish love
and appreciation upon her in return. For
this is the kind of person most men truly
want to marry and with whom they want to
share their lives.
are people," said the brilliant French
essayist, Raoul de Roussey de Sales,
"who transmit to others their
particular emotional atmosphere; who show
you how to love, to suffer, to be happy, to
laugh at the humorous things in life."
describes the truly feminine woman. Her mind
and heart are enthusiastically sharing in
the ideas and hopes of the man she loves.
She is constantly aware of him and is in the
middle of his hopes and dreams - not merely
her husband - and for all people for that
matter - she cares: things not only happen
to her, she happens to them.
in all of this, she is not leading and
dominating - but responding to others and
especially to her husband. She is sharing
and furthering their hopes, interests and
joys. She is NOT competing for the center of
the stage or trying to "get."
a feminine woman instinctively adapts her
mood to that of her husband whenever
possible. She rejoices in his triumphs, she
weeps with him in his sorrow. Yet,
constantly she bolsters him, balances him
and helps him in every possible way.
in her family and in the larger society, she
is not only responding but serving. She is
constantly attempting to make her home a
cleaner, more beautiful, more happy place.
As part of her husband and family, she is
attempting to do the same thing in the lives
of those around her.
this type of woman ever, ever have an
is a basic question - but one that needs to
be answered here. The true answer depends
upon whether - in taking such a job - she is
responding to her husbandís true wishes
and serving her familyís true needs as
well as those of the larger society.
are certainly many situations in which a
young, unmarried woman needs to be working
as a secretary, shop girl or in some other
position. For the young married woman, these
situations are distinctly fewer.
they do exist
in the first few months of marriage, a young
woman may need to take at least a part-time
job before the children come IF her husband
requests it, she knows it is temporary, and
the right job situation presents itself. But
the true interests of most marriage. That is
why I said that a woman should respond to
her husbandís true wishes.
the surface, he may imagine tha the would
like to have his wife work and thus
supplement the family income.
would he like the ultimate RESULT of the
wife working constantly, beginning to be
more independent, competitive,
"hard" and this type of thing?
woman needs to be very careful about this!
With prayer, with timely suggestion and
advice, she should do her full part to see
that she is not pushed into taking an
outside job which will ultimately defeat the
very purpose for which it was intended.
time ago, the U.S. News and World Report
magazine ran an article captioned:
"Does It Really Pay for the Wife to
pointed out that he added income provided by
the wifeís job mostly taken up with her
travel expenses to and from work, outside
lunches, extra clothes and baby sitters or
nursemaidís fees to take care of children
article showed that - looking at it
economically alone - a family will gain VERY
LITTLE, in most cases, by having the wife
work outside the home. What the article did
not attempt to point out, of course, was the
severe DAMAGE done to the attitudes of both
husband and wife in such a situation and to
the very characters of their young children
growing up without the care and guidance fo
a full-time mother.
women, then, should be VERY cautious and
sparing about ever taking outside jobs -
even in supposed "emergencies" -
and practically NEVER let this develop into
a lifetime situation. The ultimate
"price" of such a job is entirely
Feminine and Responsive
important facet of the "job
problem" to consider is that IF a woman
does work out, she should definitely choose
the type of work whcih will enable her to
remain feminine. Such job situations would
include that of a secretary, a hostess or
waitress in a nice restaurant, perhaps a
saleswoman in a reputable establishment or
other types of occupations or professions
where she is serving others.
these job situations she is therefore
serving and responding to her boss, perhaps
her fellow employees, and customers. She is
NOT the "driving force" in the
business, a high-pressure door-to-door or
plant-to-plant saleswoman, a supervisor over
men or anything of this sort. Even these job
situations, though, take her OUT of the home
and - to a certain extent - out of the orbit
of her husbandís plans, hopes and dreams.
even these situations should definitely be
outstanding Biblical example of
responsiveness is given in Ephesians
5:22-24. Here, the wives are commanded to
"submit" to their own husbands
"as unto the Lord." Certainly, a
true Christian would not "reason,"
argue ot talk back to Christ!
how many professing "Christians"
women argue, bicker and talk back to their
a Christian woman seeks to respond to her
husband as to Christ Himself, she will NEVER
undermine his plans or hopes, but will do
everything possible to make them a success -
even when some of the details have not been
in perfect agreement with her ideas and
old saying. "There is more than one way
to skin a cat," certainly applies here!
Everything may not be done her way, but she
should try to be "on her husbandís
team," and see that the play is a
SUCCESS even though it is not the particular
play that she would have called at that
particular stage of the game!
woman who resents her husbandís ruling the
home, who begins to resist his decisions and
does not back him up is headed for DISASTER.
She is not only wrecking at least a part of
her husbandís life, she is wrecking her
marriage and definitely her own character!
the warm and responsive woman who doesnít
try to conquer or rule the man has an inner
serenity and security not found in the
aggressive, raucous, competitive type of
woman. She is glad to be a woman. She has an
innate tenderness for a man. She intuitively
senses her husbandís mood and responds to
him - making him feel glad to be alive,
sparking his personality, enthusiasm,
courage and initiative and gladly sharing in
Tenderness and Beauty
truly feminine and happy wife is one who
wants to have a husband as the head of her
home. She does not marry in order to enter
into an "equal partnership"
knows that a house divided against itself
cannot stand. She knows that only one person
can drive a car at a time. She wants her
husband to be that person!
respects and admires what her husband is
trying to achieve in life. She hopes to help
him to achieving it and to make him happy
along the way. In thus giving herself to the
happiness of her husband and others, she
achieves her own great happiness, joy and
she expects and wants her husband to be the
head and the one she can "lean
on," this woman has a deep softness and
tenderness for him. There is no bristling,
no competition, no frigidity.
tender, yielding state of mind automatically
give such a woman added beauty, a sparkle in
her eyes an an unusual capacity for
patience, love and compassion for others.
feeling tender and yielding toward her
husband, she will naturally walk more
softly, talk more softly and dress in a more
soft, feminine and attractive way for her
any truly feminine woman will dress, fix her
har, wear perfume and accessories and so
conduct herself in all these ways in a
manner to please her husband. She will NOT
dress merely to please other women or to
follow the latest fashion fads. More often
than not, she knows these are dreamed up by
"weirdo" effeminate men who
actually donít like women in a normal,
decent manner anyway.
the area of tenderness and beauty, a woman
should we use her mind to cultivate true
womanhood in every way possible. She should
keep herself neat and clean. She should take
baths every day and wear perfume lightly if
her husband wishes. In like manner, she
should keep her home scrubbed, clean and
warmly attractive in the arrangement of
furniture, flowers and other things which
only such a woman can add to make a house a
Intelligence and Understanding
woman often shrieks, "My education has
prepared me to do MORE than have babies,
change diapers and wash dishes!"
it certainly should have! BUT, has it taught
the modern woman to FORSAKE the God-given
role in life for which she was created and
designed physically, mentally and
entirely too many cases, the answer is
as stated earlier, many women have been
literally BRAINWASHED to believe that the
role of inspiring a husband, sharing in his
successes, bearing and training children as
the leaders of tomorrow is not exciting or
although both men and women were definitely
created EQUAL as fellow human beings, the
outstanding kind of intelligence possessed
by women is that of intuitively sensing the
moods and attitudes of husbands and
children, adopting themselves to these
family situations and inspiring husband and
family in the supporting role for which they
it does take a lot of intelligence to be the
kind of wife and mother described in this
a feminine woman needs sparkling
intelligence and deep understanding. For she
needs to perceive in a very special way how
to complement and inspire her husband to
accomplish the greatest possible success
commensurate with his health, abilities and
situation in life.
truly feminine woman is always an
outstanding example of virtue and purity.
Although among the men, many rogues and
scoundrels among the kings, dictators and
emperors have emblazoned their names in the
pages of history, very few women indeed have
commanded continuing interest or respect who
have not been examples of decency and
the Scripture states: "A viruous woman
is a crown to her husband: but she that
maketh ashamed is a rottenness in his
bones" (Prov. 12:4).
far as their reputation in this world is
concerned, some scoundrels among the men
appear to get by. But, among intelligent
people of every race and creed, almost NEVER
is woman respected who has failed to be an
example of decency, purity and virtue.
as the Scripture states, a virtuous woman is
indeed a "crown" to her husband -
adding to his stature and respect even among
others. If she has the implicit trust of her
husband and constantly demonstrates her
faithfulness and loyalty to him, that in
itself is a tremendous help and inspiration
in his work and accomplishments.
also inspires him, and his sons after him,
to be faithful and loyal to his wife and to
all women. The ever-widening effect of this
kind of womanís dedication to Christian
principles may help, purify and strengthen
the characters of countless children,
grandchildren and friends and relatives by
is worth it!
the mother in the home, the woman also has a
tremendous responsibility to set an example
of Christian character and faithfulness to
right principles. Her example - and her
diligent teaching and training - will leave
an everlasting impression upon her growing
sons and daughters.
is no need to belabor this obvious point.
But in a very special way for a woman the
dedication to virtue and decency involves a
LIVING LAW. Her responsiveness and obedience
to this law will protect her from
immeasurable heartache, and guarantee a type
of lasting love, respect and appreciation
extending to generations beyond her own
Faith, Hope and Courage
woman who shows faith in God, faith in her
husband and faith in herself is one whose
price is beyond compare. For such a woman
will inspire her husband to think and do
more brilliantly than he may have thought he
was able. She will inspire her sons to high
accomplishment which may well not have been
moments of defeat and despair, such a woman
shows faith and hope in God. She will thus
rekindle the spirit of her husband - and
perhaps others who are "too close"
to the situation to see the larger picture.
This may save them from even greater
disaster and despair.
feminine woman does not need the type of
strength, leadership and dominance which
befits a man. But she does need a depth of
courage which would befit any man! For, many
times, as the help and support for her
husband and family, she is able to buoy them
up when they need it most.
will be times, of course, when her husband
may be sick, absent or perhaps dead, and she
will have to carry on with courage and
implicit FAITH in the fact that God will
help her do her part, in a feminine way, to
act for her husband in his absence.
this area of life, especially, to be truly
and everlastingly feminine, a woman needs to
believe in the True GOD. She needs to KNOW -
and know that she knows - that the Great God
of heaven stands behind the Living Laws He
has set in motion and will bless, guide and
protect her in her place as a woman as she
yields to Him!
a much better place this world would be if
all women were truly feminine!
all husbands would have real wives,
partners, sweethearts and loving
"helps" to assist them, buoy them
up and SHARE in the highest degree their
hopes, dreams and successes.